Learning by Experience 22

Was it so important to limit even the manager when necessary?

While describing past experiences, we came to 1998 and my third company. 😁

 

As a marketing manager, I moved to my third company to deal with water and dairy products. I want to start with what I learned in this company, where I worked for three years, with my general manager, who I was directly connected to at the time. He was working as expat in Turkey. In general, he had a character who was waiting for the employees to say okay to every view. Sometimes he could get very rough. It had been two months since he started work, he called me from the airport. A billboard that was supposed to be ready at the airport was not ready. He loudly told me that his manager would come on Monday and asked me why this billboard was still not ready. I didn't know what to say for a moment ... I made a few statements and told him that we could talk once he comes to the office.

 

In about 30 minutes when my manager came to the office from the airport, I thought about all the mortgage debt I had… Despite all the debts, it was not possible for me to work with this style, I had to make clear what I feel and my position, the worst is that I will be dismissed and immediately start giving private lessons as I did  during my university years.

When he came, he went to his room with a rather arrogant attitude. When I went to him, he was going to start talking nervously - I speak to him by name - that I was very uncomfortable with his speech on the phone, and if speaking loudly in this way was his general style, unfortunately, I said that this style was not suitable for me and that I would never agree to speak like this again(!) Very gently, without accusation… He was surprised at my feedback for a moment and immediately calmed down ... He said something like “Sorry, Güldem, sometimes I can get very juvenile when it comes to work”. Then we talked like two normal people. He never once again spoke to me like that. At the end of 1 year, many of the people who were affiliated with him left because of "management”. But things were okay for me... Was it so important to limit even the manager when necessary? 🙄 After this experience, I immediately limit all kinds of movements that have disturbed me throughout my life, without losing any time, extremely gently and clearly. In the worst case, the relationship that bothers you ends, and it's always the most important source of courage to admit it ... When necessary, set a very fast and very clear boundary. I always got positive results, never regretted it.